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Originally Posted by ruh roh
LT--He said he would let you know long before something became a problem if things might be headed in that direction, so I would take that to mean he's not anywhere near thinking termination, that it's more about not wanting to cause misunderstandings through email. It seems very much in keeping with how he does things.
As far as therapists not knowing how to deal with attachment, I don't think most are oriented that way in their approach, so they would be more likely to want to focus on relationships outside therapy that need to be worked on. Mine doesn't put any stock in attachment work, for example, and I think that might be more common than seems to be the case by reading what people share here on pc.
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Thanks, RR. It's just in the e-mail, I came right out and asked him if he felt comfortable doing this. How if not, I'd rather know now than 6 months down the line when I'm more attached... I just hope it's that he wants to talk about it in person and will say he can handle it--and that he wants to keep working with me.
You're probably right that most T's aren't trained to deal with attachment. I just wish that T, if he'd felt at all uncomfortable with this, had expressed it to me in one of our first sessions. Now I've built up some trust in him. I want this therapeutic relationship to work (which I said in the e-mail, too)--but I also don't want to get crushed if I get more attached and he doesn't know how to deal with it and totally screws things up.
Ugh, wish he'd reply to my e-mail about seeing him tomorrow or Thursday, even though I know he's likely dealing with his kid and/or sick wife (and/or may have picked up his wife's illness himself...)