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Feb 18, 2018, 05:31 PM
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Originally Posted by LadyShadow
This is a very interesting thread, I agree tecomsin.
I sometimes feel that people who have quit something bad, feel a certain "high" of empowerment, and think to themselves "if I did it, why can't you?" I am not saying they are wrong, because yeah, good for them, they were able to overcome something, but making you feel like crap because you are not there yet, by basically telling you to just "do it, quit X, Y and Z" is not helping anybody, really.
What I am getting from your thread is that most people come off as really conscending, instead of offering helpful advice that can start you on the path of recovery, good life or bettering yourself.
I get your point, and I think more people should offer many alternatives to help solve a person's problem, in a way that is not them just "talking down to them" by telling them WHAT to do, instead of HOW to make the change so they do it for themselves.
Great thread.
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Yup. People ask me all the time how I quit, and the last thing I do is say I just willed it to happen. I also always say "you know what worked for me may not work for you. Everyone's addiction is different."
And you're spot on about the condescension. It's so absolutely patronizing when someone tells you how easily they fixed whatever problem they have and how you can fix it just as easily as they did.
I particularly hate unsolicited advice. I didn't ask for your opinion, please don't assume I need it. I find there are people in the world who believe that they are not only entitled to their opinion, but entitled to force others to listen to it whether they want to or not. And that isn't really the case. You're not entitled to force your opinion on me.
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Secondary Dx: Generalized Anxiety Disorder with mild Agoraphobia.
Meds I've tried: Prozac, Zoloft, Celexa, Effexor, Remeron, Elavil, Wellbutrin, Risperidone, Abilify, Prazosin, Paxil, Trazadone, Tramadol, Topomax, Xanax, Propranolol, Valium, Visteril, Vraylar, Selinor, Clonopin, Ambien
Treatments I've done: CBT, DBT, Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation (TMS), Talk therapy, psychotherapy, exercise, diet, sleeping more, sleeping less...
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