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Originally Posted by RubyRae
Maybe there was some sexual abuse in his past that has impacted the way he is sexually now.
My husband has this belief that the sexual abuse he experienced in childhood was not a big deal and something he got over a long time ago.He has never sought help for it and has never talked about it.Even after this many years of marriage he still has never told me who molested him.I think that it has a lot to do with his intimacy problems.
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For sure that’s something driving your husband’s intimacy problems.
Mine is a good lover when we get going. I have analyzed it throughly. 1. Is a case of my sex drive is more frequent than his. 2. It doesn’t matter what I need and how I effectively express it, he won’t give it because it’s just not in his mind. He is watching TV, not thinking about how he can please me. 3. There is an element of passive-aggressive hatred he has toward me and probably all women who tell him what to do. But don’t even get me started, that’s where I get triggered. 4. There is an element of Jekyll and Hyde, where he is a Casanova when he wants to be, and that is when I am beaten. I have put a stop to this now. 5. He might have some slight Asperger’s element where he just can’t truly connect. 6. He might have slight narcissism, and definitely has little to no empathy.
One fact— no matter what kind of disorder I may have, I did not do this alone! I have never waivered, making myself crystal clear this whole time.
But my fear is— I do have some disorder that caused me to find his Achilles Heel in order to sabotage my happiness.
So that it. There isn’t one thought I haven’t pondered.
And since I am the boy who cried wolf, I always slink back down, a laughing stock.
So what happened when the wolf finally came? He ate the boy. The end.
These attacks are still happening. They aren’t getting better, except that I know I will reverse myself and change my mind about divorcing once the attack lifts.
So maybe that’s as good as it’ll get.