Rhapsody, thanks for posting the link to this thread. I had forgotten about it, but now I remember. It seems there are so many people who struggle with this. And over time, it doesn't get better. If it isn't addressed, the resentment and feeling of being violated just keeps getting worse. I guess the only way to address it effectively is to start communicating clearly and standing up for what you need/want/don't want. It's not easy. We need to learn to give straight answers that don't leave room for interpretation. And if you mean no, say no, don't say maybe.