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Old Mar 23, 2018, 04:01 PM
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Originally Posted by Iceskater View Post
That is unfair to me. You suggested strongly he never made an effort for you, whereas it is quite clear he did make an effort for you.

He met you and arranged to take time off work so he could be with you. I think I am right in saying he begged you to come down to Knoxsville after you had a fight, when you had already agreed you would come down and he had already arranged to have time to see you where you had the flexibility to go to him because of your job.

When love relationships go bad, people can do some crazy things. I am not defending him as such. I am just pointing out he did make an effort for you. It is not a correct version of your own text to suggest he made no effort for you.

I am not wanting to defend him or attack you. I just think it might be useful to see things as they are and then deal with that.
You weren’t in that relationship and don’t know greystreet in real life. So if she tells you how her relationship went, it’s not productive or called for to argue that you know better. Arguing that you know how her relationship went better than her isn’t helpful. Plus she asked you to stop. Please respect that.

If you want to have general discussion about people doing crazy things in relationships, you could maybe start your own thread.
Thanks for this!
graystreet