No. Not possible. We have several mutual friends; he was set up on a date with his now wife by our mutual friend (wow...total betrayal) two weeks after we broke up. Everyone knows him to be a solid guy. Because he IS a solid guy. His only issue was depression back then. But who ISN'T depressed?

I'm 100% sure he is not abusing her, I'm 100% sure he never did. I'm 100% sure that it was my fault.

If the OkC thing isn't me, where am I supposed to meet anyone? Because I've been trying since my ex and I broke up in 2004, and the closest I've come to a real relationship is the one I just came out of which, surprise! wasn't a real relationship at all.

So who cares? I may as well just go out and do what I'm good for...have meaningless sex. At least someone is touching and paying attention to me, which is more than I can say has been happening for the past several years.