- Making sacrifices to help and care for a person is need is commendable and always a noble endeavor - one that is worthy of respect... And it doesn't matter the quality of the relationship with the individual who is being helped and care for - it's the action/deed of helping/caring for another that is most important here...


-Your value as an individual and your sense of self (worth) is truly not determined by the activity of your social life, by your number of friends, or by how much dating you've done. It's just not... And you will find no shortage of examples of individuals who have an active social life, more than enough friends, and either date regularly or are in a long term relationship - and these individuals will still report struggling with life and hurting/suffering just as much as individuals who don't have those particular life circumstances present. What I'm trying to say is, it's not those circumstances which will bring about internal peace, wholeness, and contentment - although the world conditioned us to think/believe otherwise. It has to be cultivated from within - and this can be done independent of the presence or absence of those external life circumstances.... In fact there can be times where social activity and when personal relationships can more or less serve as a distraction from undertaking and devoting time/energy to the type of inner-work that is required to bring about that state of consciousness (state of being). Solitude (alone time) can absolutely be a blessing in disguise - even when it's accompanied by feelings of loneliness...


- The physical mind (brain) is responsible for creating and contributing to all sorts of disorted perceptions and thought-forms. Commonly it will be of a nature that is self-defeating, limiting, and disempowering in various ways. We won't recognize those thought-forms and perceptions as being distortions until we bring about a heightened state of awareness within ourselves. Then we will realize how disorted (and ultimately false) our prior manner of thinking and perceiving actually was. If your physical mind is trying to convince you that you have no value or self-worth because of the types of circumstances you alluded to - then you should know that that is one big DISTORTION and is in no way representative of the higher truth.... I know from my own experience that those thoughts and perceptions absolutely feel real and they are so embedded that they feel like your identity (sense of self, who you are) - but they can ultimately be transcended and eventually seen for what they really are. The truth will set you FREE - not make you experience continued hurting/suffering.... If your thought-forms and perceptions are causing you hurting - then you should know that this is your sign that you haven't uncovered the TRUTH yet, and you need to continue searching...


-The circumstances you are experiencing at this time in your life experience regarding your care-taking of an elderly individual are TEMPORARY. This is transient - it has NO permanence... It's not going to last forever... You have to continually remind yourself to be mindful of this truth.... Why? Because it takes the perceived 'severity' and seriousness out of the circumstances and thus reduces the strength of any challenging emotions that you experience and associate with these circumstances. Because these circumstances are transient (temporary) - this should appropriately be looked upon as simply a 'phase' of your life experience. One of many... Nothing you can hold onto or try to 'make your whole world out of'... The truth is that you cannot truly derive a higher sense of self from what you are experiencing. These circumstances cannot define you nor speak to your highest nature... You have to keep working to expand your state of awareness until you can see this for yourself...


-Your 'life' is valuable beyond measure - and this has absolutely nothing to do with your 'life situation'... You exist as something that is an integral part of the entire, beautiful whole...



~wolfgaze