Wow, sounds like you are shouldering a heavy load right now<<< That's not pity; it's an observation.

Maybe your therapist is tolerant of LGBT types; only way to know is to give her a try. Then if it doesn't work, get another one. But at least give her a chance. Older folks have also lived a lot more of life--and that may make them more open. I have some wonderful friends in the 60s and 70s; they are wise, and I listen when they speak.

If you don't want to give her a chance; then get another therapist--research and find one you think you would feel comfortable with talking about your issues.

Other than that, I think Doctors on Demand website has counselors==and they could probably hook you up with one with expertise in LGBT areas. And you can do that from home.

So I hope you talk to someone, anyone! Sounds like you need to--please let me know how you are doing. Namaste'