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I don't have anybody to talk to but I don't want to tell my whole f****ng life story to a random stranger simply bc they are willing to listen. I'm not very comfortable with my therapist. She seems too old for me to be comfortable talking about Trans s**t. I'm not trying to be rude, but you know that generally older generations are less tolerant to LGBT type s**t. I only have 1 friend I can talk to and she's gone right now on a cross country road trip to help her friend move.

I don't want pity from anyone but I don't know what to do. I never really get any useful help when I post on here.

I have so much s**t on my mind yet I have nobody to talk to.

I don't want pity. But that's all I'll get here. And I can't talk anywhere else so I won't get anything from anybody else. But pity doesn't help. Death would be easier than dealing with this s**t. But I won't kill myself. F***ing b*llsh*t.

Wow, sounds like you are shouldering a heavy load right now<<< That's not pity; it's an observation.

Maybe your therapist is tolerant of LGBT types; only way to know is to give her a try. Then if it doesn't work, get another one. But at least give her a chance. Older folks have also lived a lot more of life--and that may make them more open. I have some wonderful friends in the 60s and 70s; they are wise, and I listen when they speak.

If you don't want to give her a chance; then get another therapist--research and find one you think you would feel comfortable with talking about your issues.

Other than that, I think Doctors on Demand website has counselors==and they could probably hook you up with one with expertise in LGBT areas. And you can do that from home.

So I hope you talk to someone, anyone! Sounds like you need to--please let me know how you are doing. Namaste'

Hey NewSmoke,

I am sorry you are feeling so down.

Many older therapists/pdocs are aware of the issues dealt with by people in the Trans* community.

I am not a therapist but I am very aware and have worked with many people while they are questioning or transitioning -- and I am almost 60 y.o. My teachers/mentors (from the Trans* community) are older than me. I am not Trans*, yet I am very interested in supporting the Trans* community.

The age of your therapist may not be as important as how interested and motivated your therapist is in supporting you. Many older people have more life experience and are more open-minded than some younger people.

That said, it's important you feel comfortable with your therapist.


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Sorry you feel like you don’t have anyone to talk to. You may be shooting your self in the foot by assuming your therapist is “too old” to understand. Being trans is not a new issue, although it may be new for you. I had a few friends who were transgender over the years and it wasn’t an issue, we were just two people being friends. Our body parts and sexuality didn’t make the top ten of things we talked about.

The funniest thing that ever happened was when a friend of mine wanted to be taken as a woman and didn’t want to reveal that she had been a man. I had to tell her that if she wanted to pull that off she needed to dust that box of tampons sitting on the bathroom counter. Tampon boxes don’t get dusty if used

Update: so I accidentally came out as sort of trans/non binary to my mom. A guy on Facebook was making some ignorant statements about trans people and I made a comment about biological sex and gender being different and how I'm biologically female but I'm not ACTUALLY female. I commented it not thinking about how my mom would most likely see it. My dad unfriended me and my stepmom blocked me on Facebook so I didn't worry about them seeing it, and most of my other family members don't comment or share any of my posts, so I assume they don't see them. And I don't care if the handful of people who actually read my posts know I'm trans or whatever.

But yeah, my mom saw it and asked "you aren't talking about yourself are you?" And I responded " uuuuuhhhhhh soooooooooo"and it took several minutes for me to come out and say it, but I did. My mom told me that she felt kinda bad that I don't feel like I'm either gender. But other than that it was cool. Lots of hugging. She wasn't saying anything in a bad way or anything like that. I can tell she was surprised but I know she's open minded and supportive. I'm glad she finally knows, but as it's only been a few days now, I'm not comfortable talking about it quite yet.