In my previous posts, I have discussed how I truly and emphatically believe that my husband is passive aggressive. He masks his true feelings in most situations, which makes it incredibly difficult to feel secure in a relationship.

I have told him on numerous occasions (we’ve been married for a long time) if you aren’t happy, you should leave. Please do not stay out of loyalty or obligation because that would make both of us miserable. We are pretty close right now.

I have told him, I wasn’t happy with some of the behaviors he demonstrates. I have asked him to work on some things. I don’t leave because I think he is the one driving the wedge between us. I need for him to be honest, first, then I would be better equipped to make a decision. It would be hard for me to leave without closure. I would always wonder if I assumed or was too impatient etc...

Although we spend time together, he seems to enjoy being alone. He will say that he wants to spend time with me and invite me into his space, but then he ignores me, gets on his computer or places music intolerably loud, so I will end up leaving. He gets what he wants without saying a word and still comes out looking like the good guy because he wanted to spend time with his wife (perception).

I have always had a healthy self-esteem, but the game is starting to wear me down. if he isn’t happy with the marriage, why does he stay? What is the benefit?