I don't really think I agree with the idea that people who have low self esteem like being that way just because someone offers help and they can't see it. There can be many reasons why a person can't see it, depression, included (It's a hell of an illness). I love the idea of having a busy life though! Delving into a hobby, finding a job, joining a club to meet people, yeah! There is a quote somewhere that I don't know off the top of my head but its from the book The How of Happiness. The chapter about meaning and purpose starts out with a quote that goes something like "the happy person is building a boat, learning a Italian, rehearsing opera, training a dog...the sad person is doing nothing."