get busy

One way,IMO, of looking at self esteem is to get involved in life-get a life. If you are just sitting stagnant doing nothing much then you invite low self esteem thinking. Keeping interested in something gives you wings to rise up and see the untruth of those self images. I work with a lot of people. When I find someone complaining about life I offer up the principles of rational thinking and other suggestions. It's interesting how nobody listens but they reply with excuses. Then I ask what is going on here? Could it be the person actually likes their condition? Bob Dylan says in one of his songs "He not busy being born is busy dying."

I don't really think I agree with the idea that people who have low self esteem like being that way just because someone offers help and they can't see it. There can be many reasons why a person can't see it, depression, included (It's a hell of an illness). I love the idea of having a busy life though! Delving into a hobby, finding a job, joining a club to meet people, yeah! There is a quote somewhere that I don't know off the top of my head but its from the book The How of Happiness. The chapter about meaning and purpose starts out with a quote that goes something like "the happy person is building a boat, learning a Italian, rehearsing opera, training a dog...the sad person is doing nothing."