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Originally Posted by bears3755
Lately all types of relationships have been taking a major impact on my functioning. I feel like I lack attraction to everybody I'm unsure why that is. I stay in a relationship right now due to the fear of being alone even though I don't enjoy it. I also am in a bunch of horrible friendships. I've lost 3 friends of 12 years because I'm just bad. All my friends find someone more exciting or relatable and replace me even after all that time. I know people only like me due to the mere exposure effect of me being around. No one enjoys talking to me, hanging out with me (they'd rather sleep), they replace me, I'm always there for their problems but once its mine they throw me out, etc. It's not just one bad friend its every single person I've met in my lifetime. I feel so bad like I'm messing up or socially awkward, even regret what I say. I don't know why I'm not likeable? It even brings down my esteem, maybe its my appearance? Even when im friendly and go up to randoms and chat with them at school they immediately get up and move away...  |
I'm a little bit confused here. The way you frame it, it's as though people just toss you away all the time but then in the beginning of your post you state that 3 of them were 12 yr long friendships so.. that kind of contradicts what you're saying here.. If you could elaborate a bit.
I mean if you've kept some of these friends as long as a decade or more, it seems to me not everyone is just dumping you but I kind of feel like its more like a string of friends recently have done that and it may seem like everyone is leaving you which I am not about to minimize, that's hard
Keep in mind if you've had friends like those for that long, you are absolutely not unlikeable but things do change over time and friends do drift, leave, have falling outs, etc.. and that is true in relationships that at one point were good too.