Regardless of the age it is a very real and vital conflict that drives many dissociative systems.

Some are desperately "needy" and contain/hold that universal human need. It isn't wrong. It isn't awful. It is a necessary human need that enables young human beings to successfully attach to adult caregivers. That need is in us for a reason - it is essential to our survival.

On the other hand there are those that learned through repeated and bitter experience that their environment did not meet that need and the best way to survive under the circumstances was to not need at all. Their job is to crush and hide that need for the safety of all. Under the circumstance, they are not "wrong" either.

Either this unwinnable battle rages within your for all eternity or -