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May 30, 2018, 02:40 PM
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I had parts(I am only calling parts because otherwise they are just whispering thoughts and images in my head) that have been yelling at me on how they wanted to contact T to feel cared for but I refused. I insisted that we need to deal with everything on our own and not rely on the paid help as they are only their for as long as we pay them otherwise they could careless we exist.
They showed me how they could hurt me from banging my head to shooting myself but I stayed in control. We do not see T until Friday and there will be zero contact about anything other than scheduling. Yup my life has been miserable so far since Friday but that is how it has to be I guess. Same old thing. I hate being alive.
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors. |
 Anonymous32891, Betty_Banana, Laurel1562, Purple,Violet,Blue, yagr
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May 30, 2018, 05:02 PM
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I don't believe it has to be that way. Allowing them to be heard doesn't mean "giving them what they want". T will have seen this before.
Also sticking to the boundaries of the professional relationship doesn't mean "couldn't care less" about you. Having the therapeutic frame is important. There is lots of black and white thinking in your post. I am not sure which side is black and which side is white.  But those are two extreme points of view.Life isn't about extremes at all. Bell curves of Everything show us that 99.9% of life is grey. Somewhere in the middle there is coexistence and mediums and even happiness. |
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#3
May 30, 2018, 07:39 PM
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Ok this post sounds like something how a teenager would behave.
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors. |
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May 30, 2018, 08:03 PM
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Regardless of the age it is a very real and vital conflict that drives many dissociative systems.
Some are desperately "needy" and contain/hold that universal human need. It isn't wrong. It isn't awful. It is a necessary human need that enables young human beings to successfully attach to adult caregivers. That need is in us for a reason - it is essential to our survival. On the other hand there are those that learned through repeated and bitter experience that their environment did not meet that need and the best way to survive under the circumstances was to not need at all. Their job is to crush and hide that need for the safety of all. Under the circumstance, they are not "wrong" either. Either this unwinnable battle rages within your for all eternity or - |
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May 30, 2018, 08:07 PM
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May 30, 2018, 08:22 PM
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I feel like I am losing functionality, have felt unhinged, then just numb and flat then to a need to escape. Sunday was real rough Even with all this I still am sleeping (makes no sense to me) and the bulimia is no where to be found (still makes no sense to me.) I prided myself in having insight and learning but I feel like all this is new and I am having a hard time navigating these waters.
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors. |
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May 30, 2018, 08:22 PM
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- you find a way to start talking to each other, listening to each other, understanding each other, supporting each other, helping each other, being kind to each other.
Et cetera. |
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May 30, 2018, 08:24 PM
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It is great insight MD. It is hard work. Every new insight is another piece of paddle to help you find your way.
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May 30, 2018, 08:25 PM
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors. |
| Laurel1562
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#10
May 31, 2018, 05:17 PM
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Just like any group...you can’t please everyone.
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