View Single Post
 
Old May 30, 2018, 08:22 PM
MoxieDoxie's Avatar
MoxieDoxie MoxieDoxie is offline
Magnate
 
Member Since: Jul 2013
Location: United States
Posts: 2,741
Quote:
Originally Posted by Amyjay View Post
Regardless of the age it is a very real and vital conflict that drives many dissociative systems.

Some are desperately "needy" and contain/hold that universal human need. It isn't wrong. It isn't awful. It is a necessary human need that enables young human beings to successfully attach to adult caregivers. That need is in us for a reason - it is essential to our survival.

On the other hand there are those that learned through repeated and bitter experience that their environment did not meet that need and the best way to survive under the circumstances was to not need at all. Their job is to crush and hide that need for the safety of all. Under the circumstance, they are not "wrong" either.

Either this unwinnable battle rages within your for all eternity or -
Yes these two polarized parts have been battling each other. The needy one and the one who needs to crush that need. I has been a rough week since I last saw my T.

I feel like I am losing functionality, have felt unhinged, then just numb and flat then to a need to escape. Sunday was real rough

Even with all this I still am sleeping (makes no sense to me) and the bulimia is no where to be found (still makes no sense to me.)

I prided myself in having insight and learning but I feel like all this is new and I am having a hard time navigating these waters.
__________________
When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors.