I'm sorry, but I disagree and have strong opinions on this. Why does it not bother you that he is chatting live with porn actresses? Do you not realize that that is practically a form of cheating? He is doing sex talk with other women, and that doesn't bother you at all? Asking them to do things for him, take their clothes off for him and do sexual acts to turn him on and get him off? I may be off the mark here in even posting this & may get a lot of flack for it, but that would severely bother me in a committed relationship, and I would have serious doubts about my boyfriend's commitment level towards me. And not every man looks at porn. My boyfriend does NOT and believes it is a form of cheating when in a relationship, and I agree with that stance. He tells me I am everything he could ever want in a woman and he doesn't feel the need OR desire and he thinks it's disrespectful of me to boot.

And not everyone thinks or believes it's normal for men to look at porn while in a committed relationship. That's just an excuse for men to use.. "it's normal' and then women are taught & conditioned to accept this. Bottom line is, it's destructive to many relationships (not all, but many), it makes many women feel insecure about themselves, and like they are not sexy enough for their man.

I would approach him with how much it bothers & upsets you, and see what he says and does. That will be the true test. But if it were me, and I caught my boyfriend doing sex chatting, it would have been over.