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Originally Posted by Movingon69
Wow. I'm so sorry you are going through this. But, you absolutely can't stay. He's your boyfriend, right (I'm awful with abbreviations). You seem like a very nice and caring person to want to take care of himself while he is recovering. But don't. He needs to see the consequences of his actions and the longer you wait the harder it will be because he will do whatever he can to manipulate you into staying. Is he a narcissit? I know that term gets thrown around loosely, but he sounds like he truly might be.
As far as your financial situation in moving out. Are you willing to find a roomate to help lower the cost of lving? Do you work? If so, can you secretly save money to get you ready to move? But, don't under any circumstances sleep with him again and cancel your credit card and get a new one.
I'm sorry you are dealing with this. He's a real jerk and you deserve more.
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Thank you. Yes, BF stands for boyfriend, though it feels uncomfortable to refer to him as such now. You are right, he would try to manipulate me. Manipulation is, let's say, in his wheelhouse. You are also correct that he is a narcissist (covert type). I agree that term is thrown around loosely these days, but he's textbook and I've known it long before this. Sociopathic too, peppered with borderline drama. He's a poster child for cluster B. (
Not just my opinion.)
I am saving every penny and working all they'll give me (here now on a Sat.). Unfortunately a roommate is not possible as I'm only looking for a room. Around here, a room (like 10x12 kind of size) runs about $600. Most houseshares are with 20-30 somethings, and I'm 55, so not as likely to get picked. I've found a place that is similar to a dorm and I want it so bad, but don't have the upfront cash to get in.
I do work, but it is minimum wage and part time (I told them I want to increase hours at least for awhile). I definitely cancelled the card! Fortunately that was easy AND I got them to reverse the unauthorized charges.
I will write more later as it is time to get working...