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I need advice/answers... 24 years age difference between us, he’s a widower but known each other almost 20 years, dating the past 2 1/2 years. His children didn’t like me. He cheated. I feel he manipulated the situation to his liking and used his oldest daughter as an excuse for what he didn’t want to deal with. His mother was an severe alcoholic and divorced his father in high school. He told me his marriage was more partnership, rarely had sex (2-3 times per year) but he wouldn’t leave her. Instead he cheated. She fought cancer twice, the second time she lost the battle and died in July. He started seeing me the next January, after the former mistress of around 10 years left him in December. He told me I was there for him when no one else was, no friends really reached out, he felt alone. He told me he loved me first, 7 days after he lied to me and fooled around with his first wife, but he did tell me the next evening so according to him, that counted for something. He wanted me and wanted to sneak around and hide it from me. It wouldn’t take long at all to figure him out and then was sorry, he still loved me, but I knew how he was so it was supposed to be ok. Right. Last summer he tells me, he has developed real feelings for me and changes (or so it seemed) for the better. This past Feb was his birthday and a classmate of his gave him the name and number of a friend she thought he would like. According to her and a couple of other ladies his age, no one approved of him seeing such a younger woman. I guess his reputation and ego meant more than I did because he had lunch with this woman. I found out bc he told on himself. He told me they had nothing in common, he didn’t like her, she was a prude, etc, and he wouldn’t be seeing her again. A month later he blindsides me and says he is going to start seeing this woman and can’t see me anymore. We will always be friends, we have an unbreakable bond, he will always be there for me because he’s always had my best interest in mind. Now, 6 months later, after a lot of problems, he won’t speak to me and says I am just like his alcoholic mother. I admit I called the new love interest because I wanted her to know what was really going on. That he was evidently still seeing both of us and he said she knew about me but I didn’t have a clue about her. At the initial breakup or whatever, he said I did nothing wrong and this was his fault, and continued to say I did nothing wrong, but never really would talk about anything bc he dislikes confrontation. But now I’m the one who caused all of this, he can’t trust me. This is my fault. What is going on?