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Originally Posted by Blueberrybook
I'm that way too. H says I see the negative in everything, but I don't know on certain things, it's like I can read the writing on the wall, such as his not getting hired by the university that promised him he'd have a job come fall & once it was July & nothing, I was like that's it, there's not going to be a job, and there wasn't. I knew too his mom was so bad off that the last time we visited, it would be the last time my daughter & I saw her alive (this was around 6 months prior to her death, H's family lives in California, so it's not exactly an easy visit). The way things were going, I pleaded with him to spend Christmas with his parents this year because I just knew his mom was going to die over Christmas break, and sure enough, she passed away December 28. But maybe those were situations H was too close to emotionally to see what was coming. I never told H I knew these things beforehand, but I did afterwards and then he commented about my always seeing the negative.
I am sure there are things I thought negatively about that turned out positive, but I can't for the life of me remember them.
Lately, I have enough trouble just going day to day. Some days are bad, some terrible, and some downright I don't know how I'll get through this.
Another thing to work on...just tack it onto my long list...
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Dear Blueberrybook, thanks for your post here. The two incidents you mention remind me of myself -- it's like successfully predicting the future, isn't it. My dad could do that, my brother and I can do it. And it's almost always predicting negative things that DO happen.
But another sentence you wrote, that you can't seem to remember times that negative predictions turned out to be okay, not negative -- that happens to me a lot. I need to remember to focus/remember the times that I had what one therapist called "anticipatory anxiety" where the thing I was just SO SURE was going to go wrong, turned out to work out fine!
Another thing I need to remember (regarding predictions) this is a form of what Dr. Burns calls "erroneous thinking" types. It's called "fortune telling." I need to remember to be in the here and now, and not "live in the future" by "fortune telling."