I think I’ve mentioned this many times before, but just to give a little background, I’m typically very respectful and I’m also independent. My T seemed very happy recently when I asked him for some words of encouragement via email, saying something about how I never ask for anything from him.

Anyway, he only checks emails Mon-Thurs during work hours and he doesn’t check emails while on vacation. He hasn’t told me this, but I’ve figured it out. My main form of communication with him is via email and he seems ok with this. I tend to clam up in person, but reveal a lot more via email where I just feel freer and less inhibited. He has even thanked me for this, so I’ve felt encouraged to continue. Anyway, even though I fully respect his boundary of not answering on weekends, I find that I keep feeling quite distraught over it. Many months ago I asked him why he didn’t respond over weekends and it seemed like he was possibly willing to negotiate this with me. I also felt like maybe he was uncomfortable so I switched the topic. I still feel this way. I dread Thursday/Fridays because I feel a bit abandoned. I contemplated bombarding him with emails each day this weekend just so that he’d get the message. I obviously came to my senses and didn’t do it, but I just can’t shake the urgency I feel about him not responding on weekends. And honestly, if he agreed, I’d probably feel tremendously guilty.

Does anyone have similar experiences of wanting to push their T’s boundaries? Or suggestions?