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Old Oct 28, 2018, 02:18 AM
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Originally Posted by Argonautomobile View Post
When I find I'm not letting something from the past go - and my not letting go is upsetting me - I find it's because I'm not present or future-focused enough.

Usually this happens when I'm unemployed/ on vacation (and so have an abundance of free time). Filling up my time with something in the present and occupying my thoughts with something in the future is helpful.

That and not beating myself up about the whole thing. I find that counter-productive.

Sorry you're feeling this way. I hope things improve soon.
I usually do have a lot of time on my hands. I'm not employed. I'm a housewife. However, I have had too much going on lately. You'd think that all would distract me. Even this next week, I have an appointment everyday. I have infertility issues to work on/worry about. I have my sister to worry about. My husband's health and job, our financial, my dog is sick, my ears still hurt, etc, etc, etc.

It's hard not to beat myself. I feel like most of this is my fault. If only I didn't overreact. I think I've put myself through this; not ex-T.
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