Psychotherapist Diana Fosha PH'D talks about how patients/clients mainly need to know they are being kept in mind. " The Felt Sense of Existing in the Heart and Mind of the Other" . It is about object constancy. I am a big fan of LT's T , but in this case, I don't think she read negatively into that statement bc of anxiety; I think he went way too far to make his point and broke the rapport in a way that wasn't in her best interests. I do think he realized this, and was forthcoming about pushing too hard on a sensitive place. IMO he realized LT had a good point, and was responsive to that. His point that people are often thoughtless and he is too and not to take it personally that he won't likely think of her again that day? Misfire imo. Rupture and repair has its own beauty though.
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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight
I'm likely to wonder how you will respond to this email after I send it, for example.
Sometimes that results in pushing too hard in a place that's too sensitive for that pressure, and I'm glad you were able to talk/email about it.
We have come through quite a few tough situations, and as a result our working relationship has been - in my opinion - quite good.
I look forward to seeing you soon to talk about this further, and if you'd like, feel welcome to let me know if there is more you need in the interim.
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