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Originally Posted by larry64
I am presently involved in a relationship, where my female mate wants to have male friends that she can talk to when she wants. I have read many online advice things about this question. I think it only leads to problems, further down the line. I don't want to lose her but she has basically given me an ultimatum, accept it or move down the road. I just need to hear some sound, sage advice please. Thank you very much for your time and your considerate advice. sincerely, larry
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First off Welcome! Now all I can tell you is about my own experience. My Husband, and I made a deal when we first got together. It was, and still is ( if ether person wants to see someone else, that person has to let the other know, then things will be decided). I have had many male friends through my marriage, without any problems, and I know my Husband has several female friends. We have been together over 27 years, and married for over 25 years. There is some sort of saying like this (have a open hand with your partner bc if you have a closed fist, you will lose). I don't know if this will make sense to you, but it has worked out ok for us. I have also told my Husband that if he ever cheated on me, our life together would be done. We realized early that if you hold something/someone that don't want to be held it or they will be gone.
