I am dating someone. We are taking it slow per my request. I am still on OkC and POF too.

He's from a dating site. We went on 2 dates. They were both nice. The first one, I didn't feel attracted to him physically, but enjoyed our conversation, and agreed to meet again. Our second date, I felt more of an attraction. I enjoyed myself with him again. He's nice. Not obnoxious, rude, or disrespectful. Seems mellow, even keeled, and mild mannered.

One thing I'm struggling with a little tonight, is attraction again. He called me. And I was happy. But he does not seem intelligent in the ways that I am. Also the way he talks. Like how he sounds. I don't know how to explain it. I hope nobody takes offense to this. I ended the call early because 1. I was hungry, 2. I guess I didn't feel like talking, and 3. I just noticed I did not feel attracted intellectually.

He does have his own house. He has a job. He's kind of a darling.

I guess I don't know right now what will happen. Maybe thats ok. I definitely think he likes me. I told him I am interested in dating him. So we are dating. But I want it to be open. He's still on the dating site too. But I haven't seen him online.

I really just need to get my thoughts out.

How do you know if someone is the right person to date and be with?

I was listening to a podcast, and this woman was talking about how when she met her husband, she saw "no ceiling" with him. As in, there was no cap. She didn't see "an end" to what could be with them. And with other men, she'd always seen a type of ceiling. I think everyone may be different with that sort of thing? But I asked myself if I saw a ceiling with the guy I'm seeing now, and I do. Like I'm not sure if I see a complete future.

But how do you know?

I don't want to call him my boyfriend. Not until I am sure, know, and feel like "I want to call you my boyfriend." It's way too soon, anyway.