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Well, yes, that could be a reason. People who cheat, or who plan to cheat, have a character flaw and are not honest. When things move very quickly, yes, it's easy to miss such flaws because you're caught up in the initial whirlwind romance.
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Spot on. A character flaw that could be uprooted stemming from even childhood perhaps or a learned trait?
I understand what you are saying about things moving too quickly that it can be easy to miss or overlook critical things.
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So, perhaps next time you slow it down and get to know the person better before committing your heart or parts of your life to them. Perhaps that's the lesson to be learned here.
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Point taken and noted.
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Plus, you probably didn't initially know that she would want to stay chained to the house all the time. Given your posts, I wonder if she has depression or some sort of mental health issue going on. It seems it since she is so tired all the time and wants to stay home.
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I would be of the agreement that she does have some sort of mental health issues (that she hadn't declared to me apart from depression) which could be a factor for her flakiness and unreliability.
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I am very sorry you got so hurt. No one deserves to be cheated on, even if it hadn't happened yet, it was still the plan and she was sexting. I know how awful it feels. I've been cheated on several times over. She is not worthy of your heart. That's how I always look at it. Next time, you will be sure to find someone who is honest and faithful. That's what you need to carry forward with you.
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She knew what she was doing and nobody can be blamed for making someone cheat, it is a choice and not so much an option.
Actions speak louder than words.
You have helped convince me that she isn't just worthy of my heart, but me as a person. I was simply too good for her and she didn't appreciate me.