I do wonder if the reactions I have gotten would have been the same if she lived across the country.

Let's say she is interested in living in the US, which is very possible. Does wanting to move here preclude her liking me?

She would be committing years of her life to living with me if she got a green card via the 'fiance visa' program, which she doesn't even qualify for having not met me yet in person. The program kind of creeps me out to be honest, it makes it difficult to date "properly" and it seems to me that it gives the US citizen a lot of power over their spouse for years until they can get citizenship.

She does seem more interested in knowing how I live, how my days go and if she fits in my home. She told me she is not interested in 'tourist BS' but has done some research on my city and has a small list of things to see which would take maybe half a day. Other than that, it is just talk about spending time together finding out if we are as compatible as it seems we might be.

Is there harm in allowing her to visit for 10 days to see if we do match and then her going home? Should I not even give her a chance?