We are going to therapy, but maybe just with the intention of how best to separate. Husband has serious issues he would like to resolve, says he will try but can’t promise they can be fixed as he doesn’t even know the root cause. I have no intention of waiting months just to have him say it’s not fixable and we can’t save the marriage. Therefore I am working on how I would go about relocating. I hate to go back to the state where all my family live, find all new medical providers, etc., but I will not continue to live in the same small city if we are no longer together, and I need a support system which I don’t have here. Seems like every time I start to improve, something kicks me down again.