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Originally Posted by roseboi
It's not just that I'm afraid of seeming rude or petty, but that there have been numerous times where I was made to feel awful or was punished for simply not saying something the "right" way or used the wrong tone. Like right now I'm kind of heartbroken over a friendship. I loaned my best friend money, and while there was no rush on being paid back they've completely ignored me and have basically tossed me aside. I know I did nothing wrong, and was careful the way I approached the situation but still can't help feeling disposable and awful.
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Then this is a great opportunity to learn how to not take negative reactions from others personally and to accept the idea that their reactions have nothing to do with you. I am not telling you how to feel and I perfectly understand that rejection hurts, but this is the part of life you will never be able to control no matter how much effort you put into trying to find the "right" tone or the best timing or the best wording. Certain things we need to bring up in conversations are de facto confrontational and, as such, they don't feel good no matter how much we try to sugar coat them. But it is what it is.