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Originally Posted by healingme4me
I don't buy it for one minute that You Started this.
He knew who you were for 3 years, then chose to ask for your hand in marriage. Marriage takes work and it's a partnership.
Of course you're feeling sui thoughts because it's a traumatic point in your life. The situation of having him here today gone the next or holding that over you IS TRAUMATIC!
At this point I find this threat of his abusive by itself.
If his parents continue to enable him then that sounds dysfunctional. I'd perhaps land behind bars if mine kept showing up at my doorstep. He doesn't sound properly "launched" which is supposed to be the goal for parents to launch their children from the nest into adulthood and independence.
Do you have family to reach out to?
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Yes, that’s the problem is that I have been emotional and sometimes over-the-top emotional for the whole time we’ve been together but I’ve been working on doing better. He knows me and knew what he was agreeing to, but still decided to marry me. Maybe he thought I would change faster and learn to be better quicker if i was married. Idk.
I really wish he saw it the way you and I do. He doesn’t see it as abusive; he wholeheartedly believes that I deserve this.
I do have family but I’m hesitant to reach out because I’m so embarrassed that my marriage is going under already, a month into it. I don’t wanna be the family joke 😕