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Originally Posted by Out There
In my situation , as I could already see what the issues were and the behaviour had already been proved to me , it did then become pointless to complain or try to get resolution on it. I wasn't going to get anywhere and wouldn't set myself up for more gaslighting , frustration and anger. If a client is seeing this in therapy , leaving is often the best option. If it feels wrong , often times it is , we're getting that warning from somewhere. But we do like to imagine we can trust these people. Sadly , some of them let us down badly , and often they don't respect other professionals and their work either.
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Well said!
The bold: This resonates so much. Perhaps it plays into trauma survivor's desperate need to find someone that is not going to hurt them. (Complex PTSD even states: "repeated attempts to find a rescuer"). I agree that we should leave. I don't think it is our job to sift through red flags, yellow flags and green flags if our body tells us we are unsafe over and over. But learning to discern real danger is certainly possible. If a therapist continues to trigger us despite their training, odds are we can trust our gut and we should leave. Too much at risk to stay.
I know for myself, I walk into therapy time and time again despite the negative experiences. Part of it is wanting to heal, the other part is a repitition compulsion, another is loneliness and a deep desire to connect, another could be trauma bonding, another part is looking for evidence that not all therapists will abuse. I want to be proven wrong. Unfortunately I have been proven right too many times now.
Do we all relate to this stuff?
Thanks,
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