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Old Apr 01, 2019, 05:42 AM
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Originally Posted by DP_2017 View Post
No, that's not what I meant at all. I mean in intensity. Sometimes, it can become overwhelming and you feel like it's just too much, it can become the focus of your therapy, rather than your other needs or issues.

So doing things like keeping your no emails outside session etc will help that. That's all I meant, sorry to confuse you
I agree with this. I typically am on the dismissive side, and have had many long term relationships without preoccupation. With my T, it has gotten to the point he is in my mind most of the time, and he is the # 1 safety figure/ most important figure in my life. It is messed up, in a way. I do think part of it is that we are the exact same age, and he is an objectively handsome and bright guy. On the other hand , so is my SO, and I have lost my focus on my real life relationship bc of therapy obsession.
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