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Originally Posted by Crypts_Of_The_Mind
I often feel nobody cares. Even when I am not depressed. I have grown accustomed to the knowledge of it .. but, for a long while I had accepted nobody cared when it came to select groups of people (including those with psychiatric troubles). Now, I see that most people simply do not care about anyone - except when it comes to the fake emotion that comes when someone else points out the obvious. Yes, that is a true emotion. One that feels similar to empathy or caring .. but you can measure it when you find out what is truly bothering the person. Is your first thought something along the line of : "this is not even that big of an issue, this person really does not need much help and just wants attention" or something along the line of "this person is going through a lot - i want to help" or something along the line of "ugh i know what this is like and it hurts! I want to help"
I don't know of anyone who can honestly say they have not said (or thought) that first option at least once as a first impression of a situation - and sometimes it is truth. Problem is ... it is my observation most people are now saying or thinking this near all the time with almost every person they speak to.
Yes, I feel people do not care about me .. but even more I feel like I am in a small ship full of people that care - with a raging ocean of people who do not care .. and we are getting ready to capsize - not so we won't care, bc that will never happen .. but so we will be completely drowned out and not only unable to be felt but unable to feel as well.
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My mother had a saying (this was one of them anyway) Actions speak louder than words.
I understand what you mean about fake caring. A few words here and there don't help and can be upseting if help or support offered is not forthcoming.
I have become much better at recognising fake kindness now. One small positive that helps me protect myself.
In part we cannot feel our positive emotions well and we dwell on our negative ones. I think our brains have been programmed this way with the past traumas we have endured.
Sending hugs and kind thoughts to you