I've Finally Figured It Out

Nobody cares - unless I post (or say) things like this .. then (most) people care. Maybe that's good for some. As for me - I either care or I don't regardless of the situation .. and most often I care bc I care about people in general. So - I guess perhaps I deserve the pain I get bc it is a self defeating thing .. to care and not be cared about - still, it's something I refuse to stop doing.

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I sat down today and the words "Nobody cares" kept playing in my head.

I knew it wasn't true,
But it felt true

I care about you Crypts
I am sorry that I was not here earlier to tell you.

Kind thoughts and hugs are sent to you from the

I often feel nobody cares. Even when I am not depressed. I have grown accustomed to the knowledge of it .. but, for a long while I had accepted nobody cared when it came to select groups of people (including those with psychiatric troubles). Now, I see that most people simply do not care about anyone - except when it comes to the fake emotion that comes when someone else points out the obvious. Yes, that is a true emotion. One that feels similar to empathy or caring .. but you can measure it when you find out what is truly bothering the person. Is your first thought something along the line of : "this is not even that big of an issue, this person really does not need much help and just wants attention" or something along the line of "this person is going through a lot - i want to help" or something along the line of "ugh i know what this is like and it hurts! I want to help"

I don't know of anyone who can honestly say they have not said (or thought) that first option at least once as a first impression of a situation - and sometimes it is truth. Problem is ... it is my observation most people are now saying or thinking this near all the time with almost every person they speak to.

Yes, I feel people do not care about me .. but even more I feel like I am in a small ship full of people that care - with a raging ocean of people who do not care .. and we are getting ready to capsize - not so we won't care, bc that will never happen .. but so we will be completely drowned out and not only unable to be felt but unable to feel as well.

I care about you Crypts

My mother had a saying (this was one of them anyway) Actions speak louder than words.

I understand what you mean about fake caring. A few words here and there don't help and can be upseting if help or support offered is not forthcoming.

I have become much better at recognising fake kindness now. One small positive that helps me protect myself.

In part we cannot feel our positive emotions well and we dwell on our negative ones. I think our brains have been programmed this way with the past traumas we have endured.

Sending hugs and kind thoughts to you

Good post Much love and hugs

Fake “caring” ....

You are not fake caring ... bc you care for ppl whether they hurt or not.

Fake caring occurs when people choose to care only if they think it "is the right thing to do" and can be discerned by figuring out if you actually can say "I want to help this person" with honesty when you find out the reason the person hurts and not having it clouded with anything else (such as "that's a stupid reason to be hurting that much" or "that person just wants attention"). If you can honestly say you want to help the person - you are legitimately caring. If you say you want to help but are either being dishonest or it is clouded by something like what i explained above or it is done simply bc it is what you have been told or taught is "right" and there is no real emotion behind it, then THAT would be "fake caring".

I’m sorry you feel this way. That’s a lonely place to be and I’ve been there. Do you feel this way with family and friends around? I’m sending a genuine hug.

Yes, as I said - it's more like a "knowledge" than a "feeling".