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Originally Posted by theoretical
I didn't deny that a problem existed, and I handled it with relative ease. It just didn't fit the narrative of abuser/victim, and thus it's hard for me to understand it that way.
That isn't to say denial isn't a factor for a lot of people. Yes, I'm sure many victims of abuse would rather deny the gravity of the situation, especially when escape seems nearly impossible or when there are other lives at stake.
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I wasn't referring to your situation, but to what I see as a big factor in why many adults stay in abusive relationships... denial that is.
It can be a big factor also for children who don't want to believe their parents are abusing them. It is a very threatening realization to have as a child and I didnt see my parents behavior as child abuse until much later.
It has taken me a long time to accept I was a victim of child abuse and because of my boundary problems I made very poor choices more than once on who I would get involved with and didn't see the red flags of abuse until it already started. Victims get demoralized and may lose the ability to escape if they believe the only person who will love them is their abuser.