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Originally Posted by Fuzzybear
I agree that online forums aren’t always free from judgment. But for me, maybe one of the things I could work on is to say eff them to those who look for things to complain about  I’m sure I do ruffle a few feathers occasionally but this is very rarely (if ever) intentional. And as Misery Business said, if I’m speaking from the heart... well if someone wants to judge it’s about them. Unfortunately I haven’t found a therapist who isn’t judgmental irl either (this is real, it’s not me being “paranoid” or something. I’m sure there are some somewhere, even out in the wilds here 
I have found the vast majority of people I’ve interacted with on pc to be supportive and respectful. I guess there’s that saying about “one bad apple” - if someone is “triggered” by me, it’s more than likely I’m also triggered by them. I guess I need to remember not everyone is “compatible”...(I’m not talking about specifics, just in general)
And even support people irl in this forest can be judgmental. Grrrrr
Sorry about the rant. One reason I find posting more helpful than journaling is that I receive feedback (usually anyway) and as a cub I was extremely silent  |
Fuzzybear, You and I both know people have the choice to respond to a post in any manner they wish, but they also know when signing up for a forum such as this one what they are getting into and what type of members are within this forum.
When I signed up for this forum I thought to myself, "Oh this is awesome a safe place where members can bounce helpful ideas off of each other on how to ease each others pain." Not a place to place judgement on others or send triggering messages to possibly set a members or make them feel worse. That is the total opposite of safe and helpful in my opinion, Sure people are going to disagree with certain methods, but when a post becomes unhelpful in a way where it is unhealthy to that person and I don't care what it might be than it should either not be said at all or deleted. This goes for any of my posts as well.