Hi sarahsweets! I did let her know through texts that I was having my own health issues especially with my high fever and hernia pain. she never responded and as far as my kids, there is no question she loves them but it isn't fair for her to ignore them just because she is upset with me. she ignores them then guilt trips them later that they don't reach out to her when it's her behaviors that causes them to do that.

she does this every so often anyway. I'm so tired of it. my kids are adults now, so I leave it up to them to decide how they want to deal with her. I've texted her 3 times and I've called and left 2 messages and nothing. I will call her and my Gmother for their BDays but I'm not expecting anything. just doing my part and you gave me a good idea and I think I will wait her out. after some time passes she will need something and will have no choice but to contact me.

thanks for reaching out, sarahsweets! much appreciated. hope you're well.