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Originally Posted by tecomsin
Then when I told my mother what had happened, she had no sympathy for me. The only thing she said was that my father did that to get to HER because she was divorcing him.
At the same time she told me straight up that she didn't like my boyfriend. She had said that to me also before he had disappeared.
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Wait, what? I think there's something going on here that's been missed. Are you sure your mother didn't also have a hand in this?
Either way, I don't see anything to suggest it was instrumental aggression. Instrumental aggression is usually about money or something with monetary value. For example, if you were supporting your father financially and your boyfriend was trying to interfere with that, then your father trying to sabotage your relationships would be instrumental. In that case, he would only really be interested in the money, and harming your relationship would be incidental.
But I don't see anything to suggest that's the case. It seems he only wanted control because it made him feel better to be in control.