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Originally Posted by Miguel'smom
The only way to acquire skills is to be around a steady steam of learning coping skills and knowing how to actually use them when you need them, that’s hard. But do able. I have a huge tool box but my last Florida trip? Good grief I struggled to actually use them effectively. I was rather upset with myself. I have a bunch of coping skills it's using them that's my issue.
As for your feeling someone else needs it more ?? No just no.. you deserve help just like anyone else. I think you need to change your thought process on that, reframe it. Think of if you needed a surgery for a health problem and of course other people need it too. You both deserve its just the same. Mental health services are no different. I'm trying really hard to view it that way but I have a problem viewing my issues to a sprained toe vs needing to amputate a toe. Most agree it's just a sprain but that's because there's no x-rays available and I walk on it seemingly fine. Everyone here knows I probably need pins but convincing the dr is difficult. Even in crisis I either don't see it or am to afraid to speak up.
I'll go outside and look up vitamins.
Maybe if your running out of things to say in T , just tell her you don’t know what else to say and ask her to start a discussion. I'll try this this week.
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I'm curious. What do you think of this... I've been stable for almost 11 months now. I'm not struggling with anything major. Nothing is on fire. I am working with my doctors to go off my meds and I'm a bit scared. I asked my pdoc to see me more regularly to support me. I was going every three months, now I'm going every 5 weeks. I was seeing my therapist once a month and now I'm going every two weeks.
There are most definitely other people who probably need the services of my pdoc and my T more than I do, but I spoke up about what I feel I need to be supported. I assume those people do the same for themselves. My doctor and my T agreed to seeing me more regularly. I let them worry about everyone else. They did not tell me other people needed their time more. If they did I would certainly wait.
Am I a bad person because I am well and I am using services for support that others in greater need could use? I'm just curious to know how you'd view this. It won't hurt my feelings, so just be honest.
From my perspective you have a pattern of letting the needs of people that you don't know or have insight into stand in the way of you getting the care you need. It isn't like you can see the people and the list of their needs, you have just decided that somehow you're taking away from them. You don't even have proof of others going without, you assume that is the case. If there was a physical line of people and you were jumping ahead I would support what you're saying, but there isn't. There are a lot of issues that are difficult to manage. This one is manageable. You just need a shift in perspective.
You may have a sprained ankle and someone else might be losing a toe. There are more doctors than just one available. Plus, there are nurses and physical therapists and nurse practitioners and radiologists. You can both be treated. Both of you need help because neither of you will be walking for a while... You look at it and see a line of people in priority order. I look at it and see a web of people moving in and out of services as needed. Try to see the web, ok?