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Originally Posted by divine1966
I never said you complain or want attention. I just wonder what makes you want to know those things about people, especially strangers or people you barely know. And if it is helpful for you in some ways. You don’t have to answer. Just a thought.
As about turned off, yes if someone I know well is really a mean person but act as they are nice, I’d be turned off. But if it’s a stranger or I barely know them, I don’t believe I can make assumption they are fake. I don’t see why people would be turned off by “overly” nice people. How do you determine if it’s “overly” nice?
I wonder if being uncomfortable around very friendly and nice people is something to look into...
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Oh okay. I just like to know these things both out of curiosity and also, in some cases, so I know how to deal with certain types of behaviors or situations. In terms of assuming strangers are pretending to be polite, I usually make the assumption based on tone of voice and body language, especially if they are talking to me in a certain way, like as if I was a baby, while I'll see them talking to others normally if it's a public social event. I'm comfortable around friendly people as long as it doesn't go to the point where they are treating me differently compared to others. Like I mentioned, if they're talking to me and it seems forced while they seem relaxed with anyone else they're talking to or if they're talking to me in a baby like way or have a smile that is clearly not genuine that they won't get rid of. Then I get uncomfortable.