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Old Dec 12, 2019, 10:03 AM
Noname1987 Noname1987 is offline
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Sexual fantasies in a marriage should involve both people's consent and enjoyment. It sounds like he is only thinking of his own enjoyment. It may not be a big deal to him, but it's a big deal to you. I'm concerned that he just sees you as an object.
Well I’ve definitely felt that way at times since all this started coming up. And I wonder if when that stuff is the focus of conversation if he sees me that way. But the reality is that the rest of our marriage is a fantastic partnership and friendship. You would never know he had these leanings. He’s an amazing husband and father. All my girl friends are jealous of what we have. And I feel incredibly blessed to have a partnership like we have. So there’s no other parts of our life where he treats me like an object. And we have your standard, everyday sort of sex plenty and he’s very loving and attentive in those times. So I have a hard time painting him as just completely sexually objectifying me when I know that to not be the case the majority of the time. It’s very confusing. And I don’t know if people are capable of compartmentalizations in that way where I could just be a sexual object in one instance, but the rest of the time not...