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Originally Posted by Open Eyes
Honestly Hope, this is a common concern with a lot of women, not just you.
What is HIS history? Even if a person is divorced or broken up from another person that person may have never cheated on their ex. Also, just because a guy is a flirt sometimes, it doesn't mean they are a cheater.
It's understandable that you worry though given that you have experienced having someone cheat on you in the past. It's important to keep in mind that it doesn't mean you are not good enough or attractive enough, often it's all about the cheaters ethics and ego.
That being said, just because other women have been forward and flirty with him doesn't mean he would actually be interested. Most men tend to not be attracted to forward flirty women, instead they tend to be more attracted to a woman they feel unsure about that isn't up in their face so much. You don't just roll over for him either, you have boundaries and men tend to be more attracted to that in a woman. There is a lot more involved in his attraction to you than your haircolor, believe me.
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Thanks, @
Open Eyes!
He was married for a long time before me. He's been a serial monogamist, for the most part, in his relationship history.
He's told me he doesn't cheat, but then it turns out he DID kiss a woman and almost slept with that woman while he was having major issues with his ex wife.
SO, he wasn't upfront initially with me about that. He told me he NEVER cheated on his ex wife, but in reality, kissing someone else WHILE STILL MARRIED IS CHEATING. So he didn't tell me the truth. This is also partially why I don't fully trust him.
He also wasn't upfront about his ex wife still calling and speaking with his parents 1-2 times per year. He never told me this. I found this out months after we married.
He hasn't been fully upfront with me with several things, which doesn't help my trust level with him. He seems to let important details slip and then the full truth comes out much later. I've told him this does not help me with my trust in him.