It seems hard, @Dkrob68! I completely agree with all the other wise and wonderful posters about talking about ALL of this with him. Let him realize and understand that things can't go on like this if he wants the relationship to continue. Sending many safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @Dkrob68, your Family, your Friends and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK?!