Trying to better myself

Hi! I am here cuz I am tired of all the stupid fights I have with my boyfriend of 7years! I have changed so much in my life for this relationship but yet it's always ME! MY FAULT! I NEVER DO ANYTHING RIGHT! BEING ACCUSED OF CHEATING ALL THE TIME!.....TIRED OF IT! IT NEEDS TO STOP NOW!

Hi @Dkrob68. Welcome to the forum. You sound completely exasperated. May I ask how you have changed for this relationship? Have you told this to your boyfriend that you're fed up and the fights and accusations need to STOP? Sometimes being pushed to a breaking point brings a person to making an ultimatum: either this all stops now or I'm done and I'm leaving. And honestly, it sounds like that's where you may be.

In my rather lengthy experience, people who cheat--cheat. It is their nature. You should move on with your life and put this toxicity behind you.

Why is he so insecure and why is he accusing you of cheating?

I'm wondering. Have you ever made an empowerment play list? I think I would do that, and play the music when things get tense. Here is what I would put at the top of my list

These Boots Were Made For Walking -- the Nancy Sinatra version.

Make your empowerment play list, listen to it, gain strength and move out of that unhealthy unfulfilling relationship into being your own person ready for a real love.

It seems hard, @Dkrob68! I completely agree with all the other wise and wonderful posters about talking about ALL of this with him. Let him realize and understand that things can't go on like this if he wants the relationship to continue. Sending many safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @Dkrob68, your Family, your Friends and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK?!

Can you name any good qualities he has ?!

Can you financially pack your bags and move out ?

IME people that accuse their partners constantly are needy, insecure and often cheating on the accused partner.

Perhaps you should break up. If this person is emotionally abusing you? You should leave and work on yourself.

not happy? the only thing stopping you from leaving is you.

If you're hanging on because you think he will change, he won't, people don't change be cause you want them to, they may change if they want to.

You need to confront him about this, open your heart, talk it out and if it still doesn't change you may be happier without him.

7 years. being blamed for problems, in a situation where you always are made to be the one causing problems.... I'm quite familiar. you're not married. Get out now. it does NOT get better. This from someone that DID marry her and ended up in a situation of over 20 yrs - same type of thing and it never changed, never got better. Trust me, I am NOT saying it "can't" get better but you cannot change the other person and if you are, of course, doing what you can to improve your own behavior or actions and such.. there isn't much else you can do and after 7 years that's a good gauge for what it will be like for the long term if not, for life.