Ok this statement is false.
The two older children are from separate relationship. One from his first marriage and the other one is from my previous relationship. In my experience, I’ve noticed his daughter(age 11) knows his pattern more than I was aware of. But she is rarely around since she is mostly with her mother which in turn makes him extra accommodating to her when she is with us. Also, she is daddy’s girl so it makes it easier for her to get away with most things.
The one I’m more concerned about is my 10 yr old. She has witnessed more of our fights and arguments. And of course, I don’t want any of our four children to see abuse as a norm in any of their future relationships.

Moreover, I’ve been listening to a lot of podcast on characteristics of narcissistic individuals. It’s been opening my eyes more and more about how I got here and where I can go from here.