Yes, I understand that you don't want to sit and write me a novel.

I have sat and listened to so many different individuals talk about their relationships and share so many things about relationship challenges.

I am also amazed at the kind of relationships some choose to engage in too. Often the individuals decribe being treated badly and talk about how they often believe the problem is theirs. Often what it really boils down to is how they have such a low sense of self worth.

Then by listening some more, the person was never close to their father and they talk about how their parents behaved towards each other and often the father was mean to their mother or them. So the truth is, a lot of people really do not know what a good relationship is supposed to be like. Yet, most want to feel loved, feel safe, feel appreciated and be able to have someone they can bond with in a healthy way.

First of all, the relationship you are describing is not something you feel is a good match for you. You like this guy but you don't experience anything deep other than him being friendly and somewhat nice. Well, it's really OK if you don't feel he is the right match for you. And if the last relationship ended badly, well, that was not the right match for you either.

Sometimes, the relationship our parents had isn't the kind of relationship that is going to be what we ourselves want. And often the relationship we had or did not have with our father isn't something that is right for us either. It actually takes time to find a person that is a good match for us.

If a father was not close, was not warm and kind, it doesn't mean we don't deserve to experience that kind of realtionship with someone. It sounds like you want to have a warm relationship but you just have not found the right man to have that with. And that's ok you don't have to settle.