Well, I cannot take any more abuse, and therapy will just be an avenue for him to further abuse me. I don't want to allow that.

Your alternative suggestion is a good one, thanks!!

He nearly raised his voice at me last night over money again. He almost started a fight. He cannot control himself, so it's bound to happen again at some point. And I don't cower from him.... if something is important enough to me, I will question him.