Yes, I learned about it from others on PC. There is a DBT Workbook that I got a copy of and read some. Others here say it really helps them.

I’m confused with your husband situation., At first it sounded really volatile and now it sounds very minimal.

I have also had a toddler disappear for a few minutes while with me. They are slippery!

There were times my husband’s watching the kids was not up to par, but not life threatening. For example; I once left him with them and came home to him watching the opening beach massacre scene of Saving Private Ryan, the three and one year old standing there in shock watching the carnage with him and I darted across the room to slam off the TV.

The things you are now describing now sound like times like I’ve had that I thought were just minor goofs. Thankfully, I found the toddler immediately.