She shared her issues with me. All misunderstandings in my opinion. She couldn't understand why I wouldn't come and apologize for things that hurt her feelings or explain myself when she thought I screwed up plans "we" made. My problem was that she would rant and rave when she was upset and when I calmly asked her if she wanted to hear what I had to say about it, she would say no or just leave the room or hang up the phone. She was just expecting me to come to her the next day or when she was calm and bring the issue back up which I found bull--- because why is it my job to try and guess when she is calm and ready to talk about HER issues? I tried that once or twice and it backfired on me. I explained in therapy that I need her to tell me when she is calm and ready to talk. She didn't like that the therapist agreed with me. It took her a week to get over this fact. That's when I finally cornered her into telling me that the next morning when she wakes up or when the kids are playing on their ipads or whatever that she wants me to come to her. So that's exactly when, and ONLY when I will come to her. If she is still upset or thinks I should have come to her sooner then that's on her. She can't blame me for coming to her at a bad time.