Quote:
Originally Posted by newtus
It’s like I have no support anywhere. Except for my dad.
My mom and my fiancé can’t put up with my MI. I get it. No matter how hard I try or what I’ve done tho, it’s always that I’m not doing enough. I wish people understood that tough love or being mean doesn’t do anything for MI. It makes it worse. Because it’s an illness. It has to be treated for the person to understand the words of advice they need.
I don’t get people. I just don’t. My mom and fiancé might’ve both been showing tough love towards me yesterday and today, but their chosen words hurt me badly. Maybe my mom was and maybe my fiancé was just being rude/mean.
My mom told me I need to stop crying about things and just do them. I haven’t cried in awhile? And that advice never helped me ever. If I can’t come to a realization or a meaningful answer to my issues, which does happen for me, then I won’t be able to do anything.
|
Not everyone will Be as understanding as a therapist or your dad....unfortunately people are often self oriented ....they think along the lines of if I have have to do it or if this works for me then it should work for you also. For me I expect basic respect but not agreement on the best course of action.....bf kept telling me to just find a job and not go back to school. I went back to school anyway because you can’t just get a job with a random bachelors now....he was thinking of when he had to change fields and they just trained him....this was of course the eighties lol.